I don't only have my own stories, I've heard others too; and it's given me a much more nuanced and analytical approach, pushing me to take a closer look at the most common reasons guys are pulling away: All of these reasons have one thing in common: He is pulling away because it is easier than telling you he isn’t interested in a deeper relationship. But you tell yourself it’s fine—he’ll reach out later. And you know where this is headed: to the land of failed relationship prospects! But now as a psychotherapist, I see this through an entirely different lens.Look, it’s totally human to feel angry and neglected when you feel "the shift." I'll be the first to admit that in my past, I definitely was guilty of sending the occasional (barrage) of passive aggressive messages in these scenarios.Yet somehow my sassy sarcasm never worked to my advantage.
It’s great for planning an epic vacation across the globe, but not so great for trying to get over a relationship. In the midst of a relationship falling through the cracks, it’s easy to find yourself wallowing lost in self-pity, self-criticism, and self-doubt.
He’s consciously or unconsciously trying to show you that he doesn’t want to move further—and he doesn't want to talk about it.
It actually makes sense, and chances are, you've been here too.
After all, it is tough to have a conversation with someone when you know they will be disappointed.
That is an experience Now, since we have no control over how others behave, let's focus on how you can support yourself if you find that this is happening to you.