Dating a heroin junky
It isn’t your job to safeguard their sobriety, and someone firmly grounded in recovery won’t expect you to, but as a member of their support network you’ll need to encourage them to prioritize their recovery, sometimes even over you.
You also need to assess how much baggage you can handle. They may have accrued debts, a criminal record or legal problems, or irrevocably damaged key relationships in their lives that make your interactions with their family and friends tenuous.
He's tried and failed over the past year to clean up on his own, and has checked himself into a 5-month rehab program (inpatient except on weekends) that does non stop therapy, alternative therapies, and exercise. I admire him for that and we have a good laugh and seen good together.
I was hoping that after the program we could slowly start to date. The question is, I am on anti-depressants for when I was being bully at work.
Second, they should be actively working a program of recovery – attending meetings, volunteering, practicing self-care and so on – not just begrudgingly staying away from drugs and alcohol while addictive patterns fester.
These provisos are in place to give addicts a fair shot at lasting recovery and to protect the people they might date from falling for someone who is unhealthy, unavailable or worse.
Sometimes if your alarm bells are ringing, there is good reason.
If you are in a relationship with someone in a.a., n.a. I was certainly going to share more as time went on.
or the weekly bridge game, you are intimate with them. The person started googling me and found a mug shot from an arrest a decade ago from one of those extortion websites ( I will be joining the class action suits) , especially since I was never actually charged with the crime and successfully completed treatment and the drug court program.
After evaluating all of the pros and cons, the real question isn’t whether you should date a recovering addict, but whether the person has the qualities you want in a romantic partner.
In the end, it’s a very personal decision that you have to make: Is dating a recovering addict a deal-breaker for you? My partner and I are both recovering addicts-- we've been together for years now.