Dating for cancer patients
My previous partner asked to accompany me to doctor’s visits.I would make excuses for reasons why he did not have to do that…it is no big deal…do not miss work for this, it is just routine.I am also not someone to take or place blame of a situation where it does not soundly belong.While I will not take blame for the how the ending evolved, I can honestly admit to myself that I am a part of the why. I hate the idea that I may be treated as the ‘sick girl’ or be handled with kid gloves as though I may break. While it is something I will have to deal with for the rest of my life and I have always been honest about that, I did not really discuss or reveal how that affected me.Chances are, I’ve already been through hell and back, so if you seem hesitant, I’m probably not going to try and convince you otherwise, and that’s ok.Be patient If you do find yourself with feelings strong enough that the C word is not a deterrent, be patient.But when you are dating, it can be nerve racking and scary to explain your situation, not knowing if someone will see you after, the you behind the scars.After many first dates, broken hearts, and weird conversations, I can say I have been successful in my quest for love (shameless shout-out to my guy).
Having a chronic illness of any kind can be an isolating experience and now I wonder how much of that is what we do to ourselves. Naturally nervous for my first date with a new guy, I stand in the mirror and stare at my neck. ” I don’t mind being asked about my scar, as most people who have or have had cancer are not shy about telling their story.I decide not to try and cover up my scar, knowing that my makeup skills barely cover my freckles. It’s a big part of our lives, and rarely can we hide it.Now you know, but it doesn’t define me, so don’t let it dominate the conversation.If we hit it off, we can talk about it in detail a few dates in.