Dating someone with general anxiety disorder
Really, this is just my method and everyone should find a method that suits him or her -- it just so happens that mine is very, very organized.When you date someone who needs things to be a certain way, it can get complicated.I know it can make you uncomfortable to have your world tidied up for you, but mess makes your girlfriend or boyfriend uncomfortable too. You might have your own, but it will become very clear upon your first sleepover that your partner's routine will reign supreme.If you want to have a successful relationship with a person who deals with this disorder, don’t get in the way or try to change his or her methods.Some headaches are signs of larger problems that require treatment, and the impact of benign headaches can be lessened by medical treatment in many cases.If OCD is diagnosed (by a psychiatrist), there are medications that can help the condition, but you should also know that behavioral and cognitive-behavioral psychotherapy can be of assistance as well.People with OCD already are self-conscious of their “ticks” to some degree. I can feel myself doing it, and I know it’s annoying, but I just can’t help myself. Mostly because when he asks me what he should wear I give him an exact outfit because I know how he wears all eight of his clothing items. Before any form of (forced) relaxation can occur, everything on your partner's list must be completed to his or her satisfaction.
My boyfriend doesn’t have the kind of comprehensive “to-do” lists I subscribe to on a daily basis to get me from point A to point B in one fluid motion. I can understand how this makes him feel like everything he’s doing is inadequate, like I have it all figured out.
I’m not sure what obsession a counting compulsion might be compensating for – it may not be linked to a particular thought – but the general pattern is that by acting out the behavior, people feel safer/better.
Given that there are compulsive behaviors present, and, particularly becuase there are headaches present, it would be wise to recommend to your wife that she be examined by a psychiatrist (or at least a regular medical doctor who can screen for organic brain/neurological damage).
any help would be grateful Thank you This counting behavior may be nothing to speak of (clinical-wise), or possibly it could be an outward manifestation of an anxiety disorder, such as Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), or possibly a neurological problem.
There is no way to tell without a face to face interview, detailed history and a physical/neurological exam. Counting things is a common behavioral theme, a sort of compulsion for some with OCD.