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Another way that men use their anger to feel powerful is to punish the departing partner by damaging her reputation, reporting long kept secrets or complaints, attempting to diminish her to her friends, family and community.Men who deal with separation with intense anger often pay a high price for using such a destructive and ultimately ineffective coping mechanism.Almost every week there is a story somewhere in the media of a man who has taken the life of a partner who has rejected him.All too often children are also the victims of these tragic events.It is an additional tragedy that men are often the most reluctant to seek professional help, viewing it as a sign of unacceptable weakness.Of course violence is not the most common response to the loss of a relationship but we are all familiar with the many other coping strategies that are less than helpful.These include isolation, substance abuse, frantic seeking of a replacement partner, denial and an unwillingness to share grief with friends and family.

A greater toll is taken when the anger leads to a more complicated divorce or when children are exposed to the toxicity of a parent’s hostility.Unfortunately, it is not uncommon to hear men say that they have thought of suicide, usually for the first time in their lives.That men can have extreme reactions should not come as a surprise.Anger also interferes with the ability to adapt and grow.To form good relationships men need to learn from the relationship that is ending. In what way can he be a better husband or boyfriend in the future.

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