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According to the Qur’an, however, sexual relations include any intimate physical contact. How can we justify holding someone's hand romantically or kissing them when God asks us to be extra careful by subduing our eyes/lowering our gaze (-31) and even avoid meeting secretly unless we have something clean/righteous to discuss (5).
The classic argument to support physical relations is claiming that the person is "rightfully yours." You convince yourself that the person you are dating, which happens to be a fellow Muslim or a potential convert, will be your future spouse which is exactly what I had done when I first had a serious relationship going with my wife of 3 years.
And aside from that, how about learning the Islamic basics of marriage, the rights of the spouse and readying yourself to making a lifetime commitment?
Some time would definitely have to be invested on your spiritual education which should be a higher priority than your financial and career development.
What's the big deal with a little kiss or hand holding?
Yes, I can certainly relate that it's innocent and very common, but I can assure you it's more involved than you imagine.
The physical part is as simple as holding hands and gradually evolves into hugging, kissing and eventually S-E-X.My findings brought me to the realization that dating is a process which occupies a great deal of your emotions and tempts you physically so fast that you don't realize what hit you. The "game of dating" --especially if you're a Muslim-- inevitably spins out of control and becomes very hard to maintain.The real challenge to your faith starts when the attention shifts away from the needs of your soul to the needs of your body and drains your efforts to increase your remembrance of God.(See: The Truth about Why Women and Men can't be "Just Friends" [VIDEO])There are some folks out there who date but due to factors like religion, trust, outrage from parents etc. That may be admirable to some extent but Lord knows there's this lingering feeling deep inside the psyche; the growing desire for contact and romance.When that's the issue, you should ask yourself one question: "What's the point of winning the battles of avoiding the physical stuff while your soul is losing the war from all the energy and effort that's being drained away and spent? You either remove yourself from the situation or end the guilt and get married.