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I know I came across needy over the last couple of months and am wondering if there’s anything I can do to get him back. MORE: Why Guys Withdraw Men don’t want an audience for this.
I can tell you firsthand that when people try to probe why I am being distant, it feels very invasive to me and I withdraw even further.
It means that you are not imprisoned in a reality where you can’t be happy unless you get a very, specific outcome with one particular person.
MORE: Everything You Need to Know to Get Your Ex Back When you fixate on a specific outcome with a specific person, you ruin your attractive vibe since you can’t be happy unless you have the outcome you want…
Men are attracted to women who have the vibe of being OK (not anxious, worried, hostile, upset, etc.).
Men are attracted to women who have the vibe of being enthusiastic (not insecure, pessimistic, negative, etc.).
At the heart of it, it’s the feeling of fear of loss.
You should be happy recognizing that you’re single because it means you can have limitless options.
My ex broke up with me last month after being together for over a year.
The last few months were rough because his grandmother passed away after being in the hospital for a few months.
In another sense, you already have a relationship with him… So, to answer your questions about what to do and if you can get him back… It is counter-intuitive, but when women fixate on a guy (and worse, a specific outcome with a guy), they are destroying their mood and ability to be attractive.
When you take on the perspective of, “I need this guy to be this specific way with me…